Vietnam – My Lessons Learned in Leadership

Vietnam – My Lessons Learned in Leadership

It All Started With Me Saying YES

saigon bali hotel that has free breakfast in dining roomVolunteering is a great way to develop the leadership skills you didn’t know you had. So I found out and how our day to day survival jobs box us in and restrict us from developing our full leadership and soft skills potential

I recently completed a 22-day mission with a local charity working with children with cerebral palsy (CP) in Vietnam. I was asked to join their international team of health care professionals as a videographer for a 30-minute documentary our local community TV station approved several months earlier. I recently just began videotaping my speeches to perfect them and thought capturing stories on videos would make me a stronger speaker. Upon our early morning at 3 am arrival and after a short sleep, we all met in the lunchroom as most of us have never met before.

After a brief update on our upcoming 2-week mission, our team leads Laverne Bissky asked each of us to give a 3 to 5-minute talk of why we are here, what we expect to accomplish, and anything else that comes to mind. I went last as I was filming. This allowed me to listen to everyone’s story first. That’s when I realized, despite our differing backgrounds, we are all equal and together here for 1 cause, that being the children. I came to capture a story but what began to unfold before me were real-life examples of leadership lessons. Our first gathering gave me my first lesson. You can read the full story at Volunteer Videographer for a Children’s Mission in Vietnam

All The Things I Learned

Lesson #1 – There is no I in TEAM

In those introductions, we were also asked to explain what we believe our role or at least what we think our role will be. Most had very simple short descriptors which made it very easy to put the pieces of this mission puzzle together, at least for me as I saw our team unfold and link together before me.

Lesson #2 – Keep job descriptions simple; like 2 or 3 lines

cerebral palsy conference in qui nhon vietnamIn the coming days as we visited different hospitals, met the parents and their children in our revolving workshops on the floor mats in the hospitals, we all started to help each other even in the simplest of ways. As I filmed behind the camera I never saw any one of our team stay put, simply because that wasn’t in my job description. Everyone contributed whenever needed without being asked. I too, despite holding a running camera, did lend a hand by passing something to our workshop leads. That’s when I fully understood, we aren’t working for ourselves but the kids attending aged anywhere from 9 months to their mid-teens.

Lesson #3 – Don’t limit your contribution to your 2 or 3 line job description

All the while this was happening, our team leads Laverne, founder, executive director, and parent expert never stayed at the head table for long. She didn’t even stay in the limelight either as I caught many profiles videotaping where she was intermixed with the parents, watching and listening from the back, as if she too was there for the informational sessions to take some cerebral palsy knowledge back home with her child.

Lesson #4 – Leaders aren’t always in the front

We were in Vietnam and we relied totally on our team of local gen y translators who spoke very good English. Sometimes I heard 1 English word taking many of their words to translate. I was told that many words have no direct translation, so transcription became the norm. I began to realize that the Vietnamese language is not a simple one to learn. In order to connect I relied heavily on making eye contact for several seconds, then smile and even nod. Sometimes I even gestured to show sincerity and friendship. Where appropriate I even relied on a handshake.

Lesson #5 – Don’t underestimate the power of a smile, eye contact, or a handshake

video-connects meets vtv hanoi downtown in vietnamOnce on the street during our breaks and sightseeing, we were obviously visiting foreigners. Whether passing the shop owners looking to entice us to enter or a street vendor hoping to sell us an albeit simple trinket, I always felt I was being treated with respect and sincerity. It’s the kind of feeling I seldom recall experiencing back home in the west. It didn’t matter whether the item was only a dollar or 50 dollars. It didn’t take me long to feel so special that I just wanted to buy almost anything from the vendors.

Lesson #6 – Make your customer feel special

Many times throughout our traveling mission workshops from behind the video camera, I would capture Laverne having direct one-on-one discussions with our team members. Sometimes I would capture at a distance so could only observe facial expressions and body language. Other times it was up close and I could hear the discussion. Sometimes it was business about our educational workshop and other times it was sheer pleasure about a funny incident that we may have encountered.

Lesson #7 – Get to know your team members

As Laverne has spent extended periods in Vietnam before, she had a repertoire of cool sights for us to see. When a transition or break was in order, we did some sightseeing either in the evening or while traveling to our next destination. During our traveling, we stopped for breaks at roadside markets to try some local fruit or snack. That gave us a chance to get to know each other better on a social basis since most of us have just met here on this mission for the first time. We even took turns picking a restaurant each evening to eat at. For better or worse, even if one didn’t work out, we still took it in good humor and used the incident to build a good team relationship.

Lesson #8 – Leaders are not afraid to throw in some fun

cerebral palsy conference in hue vietnam at a rehab hospitalPlanning this mission was done by Laverne and probably 1 year in advance. The ease and smoothness with which our 22-day mission ran were remarkable, in my observation. I doubt Laverne, the sole organizer would totally agree that it just came together on its own. Planning the logistics for a group of 14, traveling from 13 time zones away, 5 cities, 5 hotels, team members from 3 other countries, numerous cabs, chartered coach, flying, visiting an orphanage, and several social stops to visit local friends made from past missions, is no small feat. No doubt, having such a close relationship with ones’ own planning, one can’t help but feel it is perfect and can’t be optimized or tweaked. But last-minute adjustments had to be made, at no great loss either to the benefit of the mission as a whole or to accommodate individual team members.

Lesson #9 – Plans are just plans – Allow your team member to adjust their scope

video-connects traveling in mekong delta vietnamMost days we had a quick 30 minute debrief meeting of the days’ workshop activities. These would usually be back at our hotel where we stayed. We would all meet in the breakfast room which was quiet as we had it all to ourselves, order a drink or snack then each take 2-3 minutes to give our observations of the day’s progress, good, bad, lessons learned, or otherwise. Some days Laverne would chair but several times Terry (the other Terry) would chair these debrief meetings. This would give Laverne a chance to not only listen but also focus more on the overall mission content, strategy, execution, and progress.

Lesson #10 – Good leaders don’t lead alone

With Laverne having many things to execute and follow, she didn’t always lead our daily round table of “lessons learned” and “what worked and what didn’t”. That’s where others of our team also pitched in. This gave others a chance to “drive the bus”. You wouldn’t want the same person to do all the leading, as they also need a “seat in the audience” to reflect on the day, and ask questions. I think it also encourages the rest of the team to sometimes act as if they lead. Actually, when our group sessions broke out into groups, they did lead their own groups.

Lesson #11 – Good leaders are good followers also

video-connects doing closing commentary in mekong delta vietnamPart of our hospital workshop program was breaking up into groups of 3 or 4 and visiting a home where there resided a child with cerebral palsy. We would spend about an hour with the family and through the use of an interpreter, we would ask the family what challenges they had administering the special care their child required. Each group had 1 health care expert who would observe whether any special aids or exercises would help the child. Sometimes we could only get into these places by each riding on the back of a motorbike as the rural streets were sometimes concrete paths only 6 feet wide. Being March meant day temperatures in the mid to high 30’s centigrade. On one such home visit, one of our health experts spotted a small quaint cafe large enough to accommodate all of us and said, “Let’s have our debrief here over a cool drink.” As he proceeded, more of us began to follow. It was actually a very good idea because we still had a 1-hour bus ride back to our hotel and by then, much of what each group observed in their home visit may not have come out in our hotel debrief, most of us succumbing to fatigue of a long day and the heat.

Lesson #12 – If a team member has an idea to execute, let them run with it

Sometimes, ideas on the spur of the moment are good, as one can see what is transpiring and what may need to be done or implemented. It also gives your entire team a chance to mold and shape your project. If it doesn’t fully work out, it will still be good to note that and why at your daily recap of “lessons learned”. Many ideas may be first-born and need to be tested somewhere and sometimes. There is no better time than the present.

It Was a Blessing in Disguise

I came to capture a story and learn about videography. I leave having the best seat in the house to observe firsthand leadership lessons. For me, this trip to Vietnam was definitely no ordinary journey.

You should also watch my short video tribute to our team and our amazing experience – Vietnam is No Ordinary Journey

cerebral palsy team for team pic visiting boy with cp in mekong delta vietnam


I am a video marketer, videographer, blogger, story teller and always looking for the next story - YOUR story. I coach and write soft skills articles based on my experiences to help you become a better speaker, leader, presenter and influencer. I capture your story in video to best connect with your audience so they become your next client.

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  1. […] Our volunteers would lead parents and their children through rotating 2-hour one-on-one breakout sessions, showing first-hand how to exercise their children and use mechanical aids to help the children lead better and independent lives. We all stayed in the same hotel, so our daily routine began with a 6 am team breakfast in the restaurant. By 7 am we were on the road for a 1-hour ride to the rehab hospital. Up to 9 am the parents were arriving on their motorbikes with their children. With the local staff and officials, we would have a full room of near 80. For me, along with videography work, it gave me insight into my other passion; LEADERSHIP. This experience helped me share my learnings with my article, “Vietnam – My Lessons Learned in Leadership”. […]